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Finding Peace in a Chaotic World

Reframing the Present Moment in Troubling Times

As a therapist, I sit daily with clients who are deeply troubled by the world around them. The political landscape—both domestic and international—feels increasingly divisive. Newsfeeds are full of polarization, violence, climate disasters, and human suffering. For many, it’s not just background noise—it’s a constant hum of distress, a source of anxiety that feels both urgent and completely out of their control.

I understand that distress. I feel it too. But over the years, both personally and professionally, I’ve come to believe something important: peace is not found in ignoring the chaos. Peace is found in how we relate to it.

We live in a time where we’re more informed than ever, yet often feel more powerless than ever. We carry global suffering in our pockets, absorbing a relentless stream of information we were never meant to hold. While our awareness can deepen empathy, it can also overwhelm us, leaving us paralyzed or despairing. The solution is not to disengage—but to refocus.

Mindfulness: Returning to the Present Moment

One of the most powerful tools I teach is present-focused mindfulness. That’s not just sitting cross-legged and breathing (though that can help). It’s the daily, moment-to-moment practice of bringing our attention back from the swirling chaos of the world into what’s right in front of us.

When your mind spirals with “What ifs?” about the future or ruminates on all that’s going wrong, mindfulness invites a different question: “What is happening right now?”

Right now, your feet are on the ground. You’re breathing. You’re alive. Perhaps someone nearby needs kindness. Perhaps there’s a small task in front of you that deserves your care. The practice of noticing, grounding, and gently returning to now—again and again—is not escapism. It’s choosing to anchor yourself in a storm.

When the world feels out of control, mindfulness reminds us: this moment is still yours.

Reframing: Shifting from Helplessness to Engagement

Many of my clients come in with language like, “Everything is falling apart,” or “There’s nothing I can do.” While those feelings are valid, they’re often rooted in distorted, all-or-nothing thinking. This is where cognitive reframingbecomes essential.

Reframing doesn’t mean denying reality. It means choosing to see the fuller picture. Yes, there is suffering and injustice. And—there is also kindness, resilience, and people doing good work every single day.

Ask yourself:

  • Can I honor the pain of the world without letting it consume me?
  • Can I acknowledge what’s wrong without losing sight of what’s right?

Reframing allows us to hold both truths. It opens space for agency and hope, without demanding toxic positivity or denial.

Control the Controllables

One of the biggest sources of distress is the feeling that we should be doing more, knowing more, solving more. But the truth is, we can’t control everything. Not even close.

Here’s a therapeutic mantra I often share:
“Focus on what you can control. Let go of what you can’t. Know the difference.”

You can’t control political decisions made across the world. But you can control how you show up today. You can limit your news intake. You can vote. You can engage in difficult conversations with respect and curiosity. You can be kind to your neighbor. You can raise your children with empathy and integrity.

This isn’t about shrinking your concern. It’s about focusing your energy where it can actually make a difference—and protecting your mental health in the process.

Zooming In: The Power of Local and Micro Acts

When we constantly focus on the macro—global headlines, massive systems, overwhelming statistics—we often end up feeling powerless. But zoom in, and you’ll see a different picture.

Change happens locally. Healing happens in micro moments.

Ask yourself:

  • What’s happening in my community?
  • Who can I help?
  • How can I make one person’s day better?

One client of mine felt despair over climate change—until she committed to adjusting her own lifestyle choices to reduce her carbon footprint. Another was overwhelmed by political vitriol—until he joined a respectful bipartisan group as a way to humanize those he disagreed with. Small actions, grounded in values, create ripples.

When you zoom in, you realize: you’re not powerless. You’re part of something.

Living According to Values-Based Commitments

Mindfulness and reframing help us calm the storm. But long-term peace comes from living in alignment with our values—especially in a chaotic world.

Ask yourself:

  • What kind of person do I want to be?
  • What values matter most to me—compassion, justice, integrity, community?
  • How can I embody those values, right here, right now?

You may not be able to fix the world. But you can show up with courage, kindness, and purpose. You can be a steady, grounded presence for others. You can take action not from panic, but from principle.

This is the heart of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), one of the frameworks I often use in therapy: aligning your actions with your values, even when things feel uncertain or hard.


In a divided, noisy, and often painful world, calm may feel elusive. But peace is not the absence of chaos—it’s how you hold yourself within it.

So breathe. Come back to this moment. Zoom in. Reframe. Act with intention. And trust that even your smallest acts of grounded, values-based living matter.

Because they do.

:), Susan Reimers, JD/LICSW

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Present Moment Awareness: Fully Engaging with Life

Part Three in our Six Part Series on the Core Principles of ACT Therapy

This post is the third in our series exploring the core principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), an evidence-based approach that helps individuals develop psychological flexibility and lead values-driven lives. Having covered Acceptance and Cognitive Defusion in the previous posts, we now turn to another foundational principle of the ACT hexaflex: Present Moment Awareness.

What Is Present Moment Awareness in ACT?

Present moment awareness, often synonymous with mindfulness, is the practice of fully engaging with the here and now. It involves consciously attending to your current experiences—thoughts, emotions, sensations, and surroundings—without judgment or distraction. In ACT, this principle emphasizes being present, open, and flexible, regardless of whether the moment is pleasant or uncomfortable.

Modern life often pulls us out of the present moment, with distractions, worries about the future, and ruminations on the past dominating our attention. Present moment awareness helps us reconnect with what is happening right now, grounding us in our immediate experience. This practice fosters clarity and focus, enabling us to respond to life with intention rather than reacting automatically.

Why Is Present Moment Awareness Important?

Present moment awareness is crucial for psychological flexibility. When we are caught up in worries, regrets, or automatic thoughts, we can lose touch with what truly matters. By bringing our attention back to the present, we create space to observe our experiences with curiosity and compassion, rather than judgment or avoidance.

This principle also helps reduce the impact of unhelpful thought patterns and emotions. For example, instead of becoming overwhelmed by anxiety about an upcoming event, present moment awareness allows us to notice the feeling of anxiety, acknowledge it, and refocus on the current task or situation. Over time, this practice can improve emotional regulation, reduce stress, and enhance overall well-being.

Present Moment Awareness in Action: A Metaphor

A common ACT metaphor for present moment awareness is the “Observer on the Mountain.” Imagine you are sitting on top of a mountain, watching the valley below. You see weather patterns come and go: sunshine, rain, storms, and clouds. From your vantage point, you can observe these changes without being swept away by them. Similarly, present moment awareness helps you observe your internal experiences from a place of stability, rather than getting lost in them.

Practical Strategies to Cultivate Present Moment Awareness

In ACT, present moment awareness is developed through mindfulness practices and intentional exercises. Here are some practical strategies to integrate into your daily life:

  1. Mindful Breathing: Focus on the sensation of your breath as it enters and leaves your body. When your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breath. This simple practice anchors you in the present moment.
  2. Body Scan: Take a few minutes to scan your body from head to toe, noticing sensations, tension, or areas of relaxation. This practice fosters awareness of your physical state and helps ground you in the present.
  3. Five Senses Exercise: Pause and take note of your surroundings using your five senses. What do you see, hear, smell, taste, and feel? This exercise helps you reconnect with your environment and shifts your focus away from unhelpful thoughts.
  4. Labeling Experiences: As you notice thoughts or emotions, label them objectively. For example, say to yourself, “I am noticing a feeling of sadness” or “I am having a thought about failure.” This practice encourages nonjudgmental awareness.
  5. Engaging Fully in Activities: Choose an everyday activity, such as washing dishes or drinking coffee, and give it your full attention. Notice the textures, smells, and sensations involved. This practice helps you appreciate the richness of ordinary moments.

Common Misconceptions About Present Moment Awareness

To fully embrace present moment awareness, it is important to address common misconceptions:

  • Mindfulness Is Not About Eliminating Thoughts: The goal is not to empty your mind but to observe your thoughts and experiences without judgment or attachment.
  • Mindfulness Is Not Always Relaxing: While mindfulness can reduce stress over time, the practice itself may involve confronting uncomfortable emotions or sensations.
  • Mindfulness Is Not a Fixed State: Present moment awareness is a skill that requires ongoing practice. It is normal for your mind to wander, and bringing it back to the present is part of the process.

The Role of Present Moment Awareness in the ACT Hexaflex

Present moment awareness is a foundational component of the ACT hexaflex, deeply intertwined with acceptance, defusion, and values-based living. By cultivating this principle, we enhance our ability to stay connected to our values and respond flexibly to life’s challenges. It allows us to fully engage with each moment, fostering a sense of presence and purpose.

Final Thoughts

Present moment awareness is a powerful tool for living a more intentional and fulfilling life. By grounding ourselves in the here and now, we can reduce the influence of unhelpful thoughts and emotions and create space for meaningful action. As you practice mindfulness, remember to approach yourself with patience and kindness. Each moment is an opportunity to begin again.

In the next post in this series, we will explore the principle of Values Clarification, which helps us identify and prioritize what truly matters in our lives. For now, take a moment to pause and notice your current experience. What do you see, hear, or feel? The present moment is always available to you, waiting to be explored.

If you live in Washington State, and you would like to make an appointment, please feel free to contact me here. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

:), Susan Reimers, JD/LICSW

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Navigating Mental Health Challenges for LGBTQ+ Individuals in Politically Hostile Times

Practical Strategies to Help You Weather the Storm


The Politics of Being LGBTQ+

In recent years, the intersection of LGBTQ+ mental health and socially conservative political movements has grown increasingly concerning. As the 2024 Presidential election drew to a close, many in the queer community settled into very understandable fear and anxiety about a second Trump Administration, especially given the long list of anti-LGBTQ+ executive orders and policy changes that occurred during his first term. From the anticipation of similar roll backs of protections to current attacks on the dignity of queer people, hostile politics create an environment that fuels fear, anxiety, and discrimination.

For LGBTQ+ individuals, particularly those living in conservative regions or facing family rejection, this landscape can feel overwhelming. However, there are strategies to build resilience, protect mental health, and thrive despite these challenges. Let’s explore the impacts of these political movements and offer actionable advice to foster hope and strength.

The Mental Health Impact of Political Hostility

Chronic Stress and Its Toll

Political hostility toward LGBTQ+ people often manifests in discriminatory laws, policies, and public discourse. The steady stream of anti-LGBTQ+ narratives can lead to chronic stress, which is linked to a range of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). For many, the fear of losing rights or becoming a target of violence adds a layer of insecurity that compounds everyday stressors.

Social Isolation

Hostile rhetoric can embolden individuals or groups to discriminate openly, making some LGBTQ+ individuals feel unsafe in their communities. This can result in social withdrawal or a reluctance to engage with others, further isolating them and impacting their emotional well-being.

Intersectional Vulnerabilities

For LGBTQ+ individuals who are also part of other marginalized groups—such as people of color, immigrants, or those with disabilities—the impacts of political hostility are often magnified. These intersecting oppressions create unique challenges, exacerbating the need for tailored mental health strategies.

Building Resilience in Adverse Times

Though political adversity can feel disempowering, there are ways to navigate these challenges while preserving and strengthening mental health. Building resilience requires a combination of internal and external strategies, as well as a supportive community.

1. Recognize and Validate Your Feelings

It’s normal to feel angry, sad, or scared in the face of discrimination and hostility. Suppressing these emotions can worsen mental health challenges, so take time to acknowledge and validate your feelings. Journaling, talking to trusted friends, or seeking therapy can provide safe spaces to process these emotions.

2. Stay Connected to Affirming Communities

Isolation is a common reaction to adversity, but staying connected to affirming communities is vital. Seek out LGBTQ+ support groups, either locally or online, where you can share experiences and find encouragement. Platforms like LGBTQ+ centers, community forums, and advocacy organizations offer spaces to feel seen and understood.

3. Set Boundaries with News and Social Media

Constant exposure to political news and hostile rhetoric can take a toll on your mental health. Consider setting boundaries around media consumption by limiting your time on social platforms or filtering your news intake to trusted sources. Remember, staying informed doesn’t mean overwhelming yourself with every development.

4. Engage in Advocacy

Advocacy can be a powerful way to combat feelings of helplessness. Joining movements that fight for LGBTQ+ rights allows you to channel frustration into action and connect with others who share your values. Whether it’s attending a rally, signing petitions, or volunteering with local organizations, advocacy offers a sense of agency and hope.

5. Prioritize Self-Care

Self-care is not indulgent—it’s essential. Practices such as mindfulness meditation, regular exercise, healthy eating, and adequate sleep can improve your emotional resilience. Incorporate activities that bring you joy and calm, whether that’s creative expression, spending time in nature, or engaging in hobbies.

6. Seek Professional Support

Therapy is a valuable tool for navigating mental health challenges, especially during politically turbulent times. Look for therapists who are LGBTQ+ affirming and understand the unique challenges of living in a politically hostile environment. Many organizations offer sliding-scale fees or virtual therapy options to improve accessibility.

7. Build a Personal Support System

Cultivate relationships with people who respect and support you. Whether it’s chosen family, friends, or mentors, a strong support system can act as a buffer against external negativity. Lean on these relationships during tough times and be sure to nurture them in return.

Reclaiming Your Power

While the challenges posed by socially conservative political movements are significant, it’s essential to remember that resilience is a process, not a fixed trait. The LGBTQ+ community has a long history of resistance, activism, and joy, even in the face of adversity. Drawing on this legacy can provide strength and perspective.

The Importance of Hope

During dark times, it’s easy to feel as though progress is slipping away. But history reminds us that social change is not linear; it’s a journey with setbacks and triumphs. Progress often begins with grassroots efforts, and every voice raised against injustice contributes to a broader movement toward equality.

Looking Toward the Future

Political climates can shift, and hostile rhetoric doesn’t erase the growing acceptance and love within many communities. Building resilience is not just about surviving adversity—it’s about positioning yourself to thrive when the tides turn.

Final Thoughts

LGBTQ+ mental health is deeply intertwined with the political and social environments in which individuals live. While the challenges presented by socially conservative movements like the one led by Donald Trump are real and deeply felt, resilience is achievable. By leaning on community, setting boundaries, and practicing self-care, LGBTQ+ individuals can protect their mental health and continue to fight for a more inclusive future.

Ultimately, resilience is not just an act of survival; it is a radical form of defiance in a world that seeks to undermine dignity and rights. Together, with support, compassion, and courage, the LGBTQ+ community can rise above political adversity and continue to shape a world where everyone is free to live authentically.prevail. Let us continue to stand together, advocate for change, and ensure that every individual has the opportunity to live authentically and thrive.

If you live in Washington State, and you would like to make an appointment, please feel free to contact me here. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

:), Susan Reimers, JD/LICSW