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Finding Peace in a Chaotic World

Reframing the Present Moment in Troubling Times

As a therapist, I sit daily with clients who are deeply troubled by the world around them. The political landscape—both domestic and international—feels increasingly divisive. Newsfeeds are full of polarization, violence, climate disasters, and human suffering. For many, it’s not just background noise—it’s a constant hum of distress, a source of anxiety that feels both urgent and completely out of their control.

I understand that distress. I feel it too. But over the years, both personally and professionally, I’ve come to believe something important: peace is not found in ignoring the chaos. Peace is found in how we relate to it.

We live in a time where we’re more informed than ever, yet often feel more powerless than ever. We carry global suffering in our pockets, absorbing a relentless stream of information we were never meant to hold. While our awareness can deepen empathy, it can also overwhelm us, leaving us paralyzed or despairing. The solution is not to disengage—but to refocus.

Mindfulness: Returning to the Present Moment

One of the most powerful tools I teach is present-focused mindfulness. That’s not just sitting cross-legged and breathing (though that can help). It’s the daily, moment-to-moment practice of bringing our attention back from the swirling chaos of the world into what’s right in front of us.

When your mind spirals with “What ifs?” about the future or ruminates on all that’s going wrong, mindfulness invites a different question: “What is happening right now?”

Right now, your feet are on the ground. You’re breathing. You’re alive. Perhaps someone nearby needs kindness. Perhaps there’s a small task in front of you that deserves your care. The practice of noticing, grounding, and gently returning to now—again and again—is not escapism. It’s choosing to anchor yourself in a storm.

When the world feels out of control, mindfulness reminds us: this moment is still yours.

Reframing: Shifting from Helplessness to Engagement

Many of my clients come in with language like, “Everything is falling apart,” or “There’s nothing I can do.” While those feelings are valid, they’re often rooted in distorted, all-or-nothing thinking. This is where cognitive reframingbecomes essential.

Reframing doesn’t mean denying reality. It means choosing to see the fuller picture. Yes, there is suffering and injustice. And—there is also kindness, resilience, and people doing good work every single day.

Ask yourself:

  • Can I honor the pain of the world without letting it consume me?
  • Can I acknowledge what’s wrong without losing sight of what’s right?

Reframing allows us to hold both truths. It opens space for agency and hope, without demanding toxic positivity or denial.

Control the Controllables

One of the biggest sources of distress is the feeling that we should be doing more, knowing more, solving more. But the truth is, we can’t control everything. Not even close.

Here’s a therapeutic mantra I often share:
“Focus on what you can control. Let go of what you can’t. Know the difference.”

You can’t control political decisions made across the world. But you can control how you show up today. You can limit your news intake. You can vote. You can engage in difficult conversations with respect and curiosity. You can be kind to your neighbor. You can raise your children with empathy and integrity.

This isn’t about shrinking your concern. It’s about focusing your energy where it can actually make a difference—and protecting your mental health in the process.

Zooming In: The Power of Local and Micro Acts

When we constantly focus on the macro—global headlines, massive systems, overwhelming statistics—we often end up feeling powerless. But zoom in, and you’ll see a different picture.

Change happens locally. Healing happens in micro moments.

Ask yourself:

  • What’s happening in my community?
  • Who can I help?
  • How can I make one person’s day better?

One client of mine felt despair over climate change—until she committed to adjusting her own lifestyle choices to reduce her carbon footprint. Another was overwhelmed by political vitriol—until he joined a respectful bipartisan group as a way to humanize those he disagreed with. Small actions, grounded in values, create ripples.

When you zoom in, you realize: you’re not powerless. You’re part of something.

Living According to Values-Based Commitments

Mindfulness and reframing help us calm the storm. But long-term peace comes from living in alignment with our values—especially in a chaotic world.

Ask yourself:

  • What kind of person do I want to be?
  • What values matter most to me—compassion, justice, integrity, community?
  • How can I embody those values, right here, right now?

You may not be able to fix the world. But you can show up with courage, kindness, and purpose. You can be a steady, grounded presence for others. You can take action not from panic, but from principle.

This is the heart of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), one of the frameworks I often use in therapy: aligning your actions with your values, even when things feel uncertain or hard.


In a divided, noisy, and often painful world, calm may feel elusive. But peace is not the absence of chaos—it’s how you hold yourself within it.

So breathe. Come back to this moment. Zoom in. Reframe. Act with intention. And trust that even your smallest acts of grounded, values-based living matter.

Because they do.

:), Susan Reimers, JD/LICSW

Therapy

Values Clarification: Discovering What Truly Matters

Part Four in a Six Part Series on the Core Principles of ACT Therapy

This post is the fourth in our series exploring the core principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), an evidence-based approach designed to foster psychological flexibility and help individuals live meaningful, values-driven lives. In previous posts, we discussed Acceptance, Cognitive Defusion, and Present Moment Awareness. Now, we delve into another essential principle of the ACT hexaflex: Values Clarification.

What Is Values Clarification in ACT?

Values clarification is the process of identifying, articulating, and committing to what truly matters in your life. In ACT, values are described as chosen life directions—qualities of being and doing that give our lives meaning and purpose. Unlike goals, which can be achieved or completed, values are enduring and guide our actions across all areas of life.

Values clarification helps us connect with the deeper reasons behind our actions and decisions. It involves exploring what we stand for, what we care about, and how we want to show up in the world. This process is deeply personal and unique to each individual, as it reflects our inner sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Why Is Values Clarification Important?

Values serve as a compass that guides our actions, especially during challenging times. Without clarity about our values, we may feel directionless, make choices that don’t align with our true selves, or avoid discomfort in ways that undermine our long-term well-being. Clarifying values helps us:

  • Prioritize What Matters: By understanding what is most important to us, we can focus our energy and attention on activities and relationships that align with our values.
  • Navigate Challenges: Values provide a sense of direction and motivation, even in the face of pain, uncertainty, or adversity.
  • Enhance Psychological Flexibility: Acting in accordance with our values fosters resilience and a sense of purpose, enabling us to adapt more effectively to life’s difficulties.

Values Clarification in Action: A Metaphor

A helpful metaphor for values clarification is the “Lighthouse.” Imagine you are sailing in rough waters. The lighthouse represents your values—a steady beacon that guides you toward your destination, even when the seas are stormy or the journey is difficult. While the lighthouse doesn’t eliminate the waves, it provides direction and purpose, helping you navigate through the challenges.

Practical Strategies to Clarify Your Values

Values clarification is an ongoing process that evolves as we grow and change. Here are some strategies to help you identify and connect with your values:

  1. Reflect on Meaningful Moments: Think about times in your life when you felt truly fulfilled, proud, or alive. What qualities or actions were present in those moments? These reflections can provide clues about your core values.
  2. Explore Different Life Domains: Consider various areas of your life, such as relationships, work, health, personal growth, and community involvement. What kind of person do you want to be in each domain? What qualities do you want to embody?
  3. Write Your Eulogy: Imagine what you would want others to say about you at the end of your life. What would you want them to remember about your character, actions, and contributions? This exercise can reveal your most cherished values.
  4. Use Values Lists or Card Sorts: Tools like values lists or card sorting exercises can help you identify and prioritize values. These activities involve reviewing a list of potential values, selecting the ones that resonate most with you, and ranking them by importance.
  5. Ask Values-Based Questions: Questions such as, “What kind of person do I want to be?” or “What do I want my life to stand for?” can help you clarify your values.

Common Misconceptions About Values Clarification

To fully embrace values clarification, it’s important to address common misconceptions:

  • Values Are Not the Same as Goals: While goals are specific, measurable outcomes, values are ongoing qualities that guide our actions. For example, “being a caring parent” is a value, while “spending one hour of quality time with my child each day” is a goal that aligns with that value.
  • Values Are Not Fixed: Values can evolve over time as we gain new experiences and insights. The process of values clarification is dynamic and adaptable.
  • Values Are Not Universal: Each person’s values are unique and deeply personal. What matters to one person may not resonate with another, and that’s okay.

The Role of Values Clarification in the ACT Hexaflex

Values clarification is central to the ACT hexaflex, connecting directly to committed action, another core principle of ACT. Once we identify our values, we can take purposeful actions that align with them, even in the face of discomfort or obstacles. By grounding ourselves in our values, we cultivate a sense of meaning and direction, enhancing our overall well-being.

Final Thoughts

Values clarification is a transformative process that helps us discover what truly matters and align our actions with our deepest aspirations. By connecting with our values, we can navigate life’s challenges with greater clarity, resilience, and purpose.

In the next post in this series, we will explore the principle of Committed Action, which builds on the foundation of values clarification to help us take meaningful steps toward a fulfilling life. For now, take some time to reflect on your own values. What matters most to you? How can you begin to align your actions with your values today? The journey to a values-driven life begins with these small but significant steps.

If you live in Washington State, and you would like to make an appointment, please feel free to contact me here. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

:), Susan Reimers, JD/LICSW